First of all, Happy Mother’s Day to all of the moms out there! I have seen many of my friends become mothers over the past few years and it has been such a treat to see their new lives and roles develop. Please know that you all inspire me everyday!
Most of all, Happy Mother’s Day to my mom, Ann. Last year, I told you what I admired about my mom, this year, we’re changing it up a little!
Every year, I have come to appreciate more and more about my mom in various aspects of life. Over the past couple years, I’ve watched my mom provide for our entire family…taking care of my dad by herself during his continuing health battles, but also still being there for my sister and I. I was amazed at the strength she showed when walking through fire.
This past year, I began to see my mom in an even different light than before. One of the things that really stuck out for me in what I appreciate about my mom came from my own experiences. I just finished my first year as a professor and essentially, this was my first real job. It was fun to trade teaching stories this past year with my mom, who is a high school business teacher. It was also necessary and nice for both of us to have someone to rant to that understood the struggles educators go through.
I won’t lie to you, there were days during this first year that I was so stressed out I could barely take care of myself. And it’s just me living in my house…unlike so many other women who have others they are responsible for! I constantly asked myself , “How the heck do the profs with kids do this when I can barely do this alone? How did my mom dedicate so much time to being a good teacher and still have the energy to be a good mom?” This year I’ve been in awe of how much my mom accomplished in her career all while raising kids. She picked her battles. She asked for help when she needed it. She always stuck to her guns. She has knocked being a working mother out of the park and dedicating herself to the things she loves. I hope to gain your perseverance and patience as an educator, but also as a mom if I do decide that’s what I want some day.
I know a lot of us will be saying thank you to our mom’s today, so here are just a few things I’d like to thank my mom for.
…For being a mom instead of trying to be my best friend. (I loved this article!)
…For supporting my love of travel and even joining in a few times over the past few years! And always helping me make it work so I can learn about the world first-hand for myself.
…For the fabulous text messages, sometimes even complete with emojis!
…For not leaving me at the mall after I threw fits in Abercrombie and Fitch during my teenage years when you wouldn’t buy me everything in the store because you thought that store was ridiculous. I will publicly admit here that you were right.
…For being my harshest critic, yet biggest fan.
…For when I brought home my first B midterm grade in high school and was distraught, that you weren’t upset, you just thought I could do better. That simple conversation has stuck with me til today, as I ask myself in many situations, can I do better?
…For never ever pushing me too hard and forcing me to do anything I didn’t want to do so I didn’t burn out.
…For reminding me that marriage is a big freakin’ deal without even having to say anything. Through sickness and health? For better for worse? You never formally refer to those, but I see you live out those vows everyday and especially being dad’s sole caregiver over the past couple years. You set a great example of what it really means to be a partner in a relationship.
…For still sending me $10 on Halloween and Valentine’s Day. Because it’s the little things.
…For the 2,304,476 times you turned out the lights in rooms in our house after I left them because I didn’t. Also I apologize for the thousands of dollars that probs cost you in bills.
…For financially helping me out during college and graduate school, yet still holding me responsible for part of it. You knew I would eventually be successful, yet it would be a journey to get there. So you did whatever you could to help me….I am forever thankful.
…For always being up for a chocolate martini!!
…For being a fantastic role model.
…For surrounding me with other strong women my entire life.
Thanks for everything mom, I am so lucky you are mine!